Should spouses come first only if they're right?

Meaning, if they're doing somethign reasonable, yes, put them first. However, if they're beign mean and selfish to you, then no, they should nOT COME FIRST. Is this a good thing? Put spouses first only if they're right, but if they're not, and your parnets, siblings or friends are right, THEY SHOULD COME FIRST. What do you say? I think spouses should be puut first if thye're right, ditto with relatives. You?